The First Year of Marriage:
What to Expect, What to Accept and What You Can Change
by Miriam Arond and Samuel L. Pauker, M.D. (Warner Books)
Based on an exclusive survey of newlyweds nationwide, The First Year of Marriage: What to Expect, What to Accept and What You Can Change cracks the code of secrecy surrounding the honeymoon year and reveals the emotional and practical challenges that newlyweds face. This groundbreaking book published in six editions and translated for international publication, is filled with important findings, personal stories, powerful insights, and helpful checklists and advice to arm readers with the knowledge they need to create a strong foundation for the start of their marriage.
"Should be required reading before receiving a marital license not only for those getting married, but also for their families and perhaps their friends."
—Ira D. Glick, M.D., coauthor of Marital and Family Therapy
"No one should dare step up to the altar without consulting this one-of-a-kind book."
—Stephanie Wood, Bridal Guide magazine
"An authoritative, compelling guide to establishing a firm foundation for a lasting, happy marriage."
—Millie M. Bratten, Bride's magazine
"It takes newlyweds by the hand, and gently leads them past the danger points, the difficulties, and the unexpected misunderstandings of that first crucial year. I will tuck this book in every wedding gift I send from now on."
—Francine Klagsburn, author of Married People: Staying Together in the Age of Divorce
"This intelligent, clearly written, down-to-earth book describes both the superficial and deep sources of difficulty in early marriage and provides a variety of possible solutions. The authors manage to combine an excellent basic course in human relations with a trouble-shooting and repair manual for the newly wedded. This book will be helpful not only to those in their first year of marriage, but to those hesitantly considering that step and many who have gotten well beyond that year.”
—Arnold M., Cooper, M.D., past president of the American Psychoanalytic Association
“This is the book some of us have been waiting for. It reports, in detail, the findings of personal contacts with 455 newlyweds of all ages, whose stories provide convincing evidence of the need to prepare couples more adequately for the difficult adjustment of modern marriage.”
—David and Vera Mace, Marriage Enrichment
“This lively and well written book is filled with useful and practical advice that makes it a must read for newlyweds and those considering the joys and perils of marriage.”
—Allen Frances, M.D., former chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science at Duke University
"I cannot thank you enough. I feel like the book is written just for me. The examples you give from various newlyweds help me feel, Thank God someone else is going through this…maybe I’m not crazy! If more people could read your book early on, perhaps many marriage would be salvaged.”
—Reader in Roanoke, VA
"As a clergyman, the title of this book caught my eye. I am constantly looking for materials to give to engaged couples and/or newlyweds. The First Year of Marriage certainly fits the bill. Ms. Arond and Dr. Pauker exhibit tremendous insight....The examples they use help the reader identify with the subjects and identify their own potential strengths and weaknesses. I highly recommend this volume to anyone who wishes to learn more about the dynamics of marriage. The authors successfully identify some of the common pitfalls as well as some very thoughtful solutions to marital problems."
—Member of the clergy in Arizona