The First Year of Marriage:
What to Expect, What to Accept and What You Can Change
by Miriam Arond and Samuel L. Pauker, M.D. (Warner Books)
Based on an exclusive survey of newlyweds nationwide, The First Year of Marriage: What to Expect, What to Accept and What You Can Change cracks the code of secrecy surrounding the honeymoon year and reveals the emotional and practical challenges that newlyweds face. This groundbreaking book published in six editions and translated for international publication, is filled with surprising findings, personal stories, striking statistics, powerful insights, and helpful checklists and advice to arm readers with the knowledge they need to create a strong foundation for the start of their marriage.
"I cannot thank you enough. I feel like the book is written just for me. The examples you give from various newlyweds help me feel, Thank God someone else is going through this…maybe I’m not crazy! If more people could read your book early on, perhaps many marriage would be salvaged.”
—Reader in Roanoke, VA
"Should be required reading before receiving a marital license not only for those getting married, but also for their families and perhaps their friends."
—Ira D. Glick, M.D., coauthor of Marital and Family Therapy
"No one should dare step up to the altar without consulting this one-of-a-kind book."
—Stephanie Wood, Bridal Guide magazine
"An authoritative, compelling guide to establishing a firm foundation for a lasting, happy marriage."
—Millie M. Bratten, Bride's magazine
"It takes newlyweds by the hand, and gently leads them past the danger points, the difficulties, and the unexpected misunderstandings of that first crucial year. A couple beginning marriage with this sensitive guide are clearing
the way for harmony and happiness in years to come. I will tuck this book in every wedding gift I send from now on."
—Francine Klagsburn, author of Married People: Staying Together in the Age of Divorce
"This intelligent, clearly written, down-to-earth book describes both the superficial and deep sources of difficulty in early marriage and provides a variety of possible solutions. The authors manage to combine an excellent basic course in human relations with a trouble-shooting and repair manual for the newly wedded. This book will be helpful not only to those in their first year of marriage, but to those hesitantly considering that step and many who have gotten well beyond that year.”
—Arnold M., Cooper, M.D., past president of the American Psychoanalytic Association
“This is the book some of us have been waiting for. It reports, in detail, the findings of personal contacts with 455 newlyweds of all ages, whose stories provide convincing evidence of the need to prepare couples more adequately for the difficult adjustment of modern marriage.”
—David and Vera Mace, Marriage Enrichment
“This lively and well written book is filled with useful and practical advice that makes it a must read for newlyweds and those considering the joys and perils of marriage.”
—Allen Frances, M.D., former chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science at Duke University
“This book fills a need for a practical guide for those contemplating or embarking on marriage.”
“A wonderful book filled with excellent information….give yourself the gift of this book.”
—Carroll Stoner, author of Weddings for Grownups
“This book is an invaluable guide through either the first year or later in one’s lifetime commitment to the most intimate of partnerships.”
“Excellent work…a vast number of topics are included: the marriage mystique, conflicts, power struggles, money, families, communication, sex, intimacy—in fact, just about every issue that comes into play in marriage….It also manages to be a ‘good read”—no mean feat!”
—Beverly Lowy, On the Issues magazine
“Offers psychological insights in its anecdotal case notes, plus questionnaires, work-sheets, and checklists to help in identifying problems and solving them.”
—Washington Jewish Week
The First Year of Marriage: What to Expect, What to Accept and What You Can Change has been featured on Oprah, CBS Morning Show, and dozens of other television and radio programs. It has been excerpted and quoted in the New York Times, USA Today, LA Times, Newsweek, Washington Post, theknot.com, Brides, Cosmopolitan, Bridal Guide, Self, New Woman, Reader's Digest, Southern Bride, Bottom Line Personal, and Work and Family Life. Coauthors Miriam Arond and Samuel L. Pauker, M.D. have presented their research findings on marriage at the American Psychiatric Association, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment.
Statistical Findings from Our Exclusive Newlywed Survey
21% of newlyweds reported that, since marrying, the number of arguments they have with their spouse increased. Only 21% of newlyweds stated that their number of arguments had decreased.
34% of newlyweds reported being more critical of their spouse after marrying while 14% stated they are less critical of their spouse since their wedding.
54% of newlyweds stated that their feelings of self-confidence increased since their wedding.
49% of newlyweds reported having a significant marital problem
42% of newlyweds reported that marriage is harder than they had expected it to be.
41% of newlyweds stated that their relationship with their own family improved since their wedding.
58% of newlyweds stated that their attitude about their work changed since their wedding.
59% of newlyweds stated that their relationship with their spouse’s family changed since their wedding.
25% of newlyweds reporting having sexual problems in their marriage—22% of wives and 11% of husbands reported suffering from a lack of sexual desire.
Feeling Safe: Talking to Children About War and Terrorism
A Child Magazine Guide (Barnes & Noble Books)
War. Suicide bombers. 9/11. When our world moves through troubling and uncertain times, what can you to do make your child feel safe? With expert guidance, Feeling Safe helps parents explain the frightening aspects of current events, identify when their child is frightened and anxious, and learn practical measures to take for the security of your family.
Feeling Safe includes insights and advice from Barbara Howard, M.D., assistant professor of pediatrics at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Dorothy Singer, Ed.D., co-director of the Yale University Family TV Research and Consultation Center, Sara Wilford, director of the Early Childhood Center at Sarah Lawrence College, James Garbarino, Ph.D., director of the Family Life Development Center at Cornell University, Sirgay Sanger, M.D., director of the Early Care Center, Roger Hart, Ph.D., director of the Children's Environments Research Group at the Graduate School of the City University of New York, Jerry Brodlie, Ph.,D., chief of psychology at Greenwich Hospital, and many other child professionals.
"As parents, our main responsibility is to keep our children safe...therefore it's often also our main fear. Feeling Safe teaches, reaffirms, and comforts parents by answering the plethora of difficult questions that kids have. This book delivers on its promise, it left me feeling safe."
—Actor Bryan Cranston
"Child magazine editors recognize that children deal with confusion, fear and anxiety in different ways-and that parents, whether their kids directly ask tough questions and admit they're worried about terrorism and war or not-need to be prepared to comfort.....This is a timely, helpful guide."